The thanking corner: the internet and incense
What I've been up to: A Little Steering
This year keeps on being as interesting and amazing as I thought it would be.
The last month has brought me more changes; this time, related to the choices I'm making in regards to living more in line with my purpose. Little external changes, but large changes 'inside'.
Then again, that is all that we need to actually change reality around us - a little change in perspective first.
The change in perspective brings a change in action. We choose a square block, instead of a round one. Those small changes, here and there, take us on to our real path. But more about it in the thought of the month :-)
As I keep on observing, the game now is down to our letting go of our internal resistance, trusting that life is delivering exactly what we need, and keeping on taking action towards what fulfils us.
It is in this way that we live every day a joyful life.
Now, are you ready for spring? ;-)
The Monthly Thought: Easily-Built Bridges
You may have noticed in the picture above that the snowman is made of square blocks. You can take that as the visual representation of the thought of the month ;-)
See, when it comes down to our patterns of thought and behaviour, we tend to repeat the same cycle over and over. This is good when it applies to thoughts and behaviours which empower us, but it can be very detrimental when it applies to thoughts and behaviours which disempower us.
All of us have some sort of baggage (thoughts and behaviours which are detrimental to us) that we've been carrying through life. We didn't know about it - but for a while now the baggage has become apparent.
It may be the way we relate to a specific person, where we have now become conscious of thoughts and behaviours that keep us in the same loop - stuck, in conflict, with no lasting peace.
It may be the way we relate to money - where we have realized that we keep having a 'scarce' mentality which keeps us down and unable to accept more abundance than we think we deserve.
Whatever it may be for you, you are now at a point where you realize what is that specific pattern that keeps you stuck. You may have even given thought to how you would like to see yourself thinking and acting instead - you may have formed a clear picture of how you'd rather be.
But, I have also discovered, we are capable of holding a vision of ourselves, different and better than the current one, without actually ever bridging where we're at with where we want to be.
And you know why? Because in practicality we keep on thinking the same thoughts and acting the same way.
It is now time that you choose a different path, if you want to build the bridge to the better image of yourself that you hold. It is time that we choose a different thought - how about using square blocks instead of round balls? ;-)
So this is precisely the way in which we build the bridge: by choosing a different and tiny thought or action at a time.
For instance, next time that you glance over the numbers in your bank account, notice the almost instant grip on the stomach - then, pause for a moment, and choose a new thought to create a new feeling about money. You can use your imagination if it makes it easier - for instance, by pretending that you have all the money that you need, or that you're already rich.
Only a few moments of feeling good about money, instead of following your ingrained reaction, will have already laid down the first brick of a new path in your relationship with money. And so it goes for the rest of areas of your life.
The bridge, as you see, is made up of tiny, different actions - which boil down to just changing one thought at a time. In the words of Louise Hay, "It's only a thought, and a thought can be changed" ;-)
Inspiration From You: "Family"
Every month I receive emails from readers - some of them contain questions or comments, and some of them are contributions, such as a positive story, an article or a tip.
This month Gaby, from US, shared this piece of gratitude:
No matter how much I think I despise my mother, I know truly she does anything and everything to make me a better person. I'm truly, from the bottom of my soul and heart, thankful that God gave me her. I'd be lost without her.
Thanks, Gaby! :-)
The Positive Recommendation: Improving Relationships With Effective Communication
This month I want to recommend to you a neat ebook that I read just a couple of weeks ago: it's the "Guide To The Principles Of Effective Communication And Conflict Resolution" by Alan Sharland.
As you may have noticed, all of our conflicts with people are due to poor communication - either because of the clash of different styles of communication, or simply because we (unknowingly) adopt patterns that promote conflict rather than understanding.
Alan's guide exposes the 9 key principles to effective communication in an easy and practical way. I really recommend you get this ebook, because: 1) it will help you to improve your relationships straight away through effective communication, and 2) it's only $7.
I had not seen such valuable material at such a low price in a very long time - I actually told Alan that I think he should sell his ebook at a higher price, and he's raising it to $15 on 5th March. So do get your copy today at just $7 - and start seeing a change for the better in all your relationships ;-)
The Thanking Corner
I believe that being grateful for something is one of the most powerful tools to feel better immediately. Here are the two thanking bits of the month:
Thankful for... the internet. Whenever I stop to think about it I am always amazed - about 15 years ago I was completely new to the internet, and now it is such a tool in my life - it allows me to communicate with you, with friends, to share pictures, to discover and learn about new things. Love it!
Thankful for... incense. I love good quality incense. I will have incense burning while I work on my laptop - pine, violets, amber, lavender... I love the soothing and pleasant atmosphere that they create in my room :-)
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"Not until the pain of the same is greater than the pain of change will you embrace change."
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