The Importance Of
Thinking About Oneself

For many people the statement above sounds completely irrational.

We live in a world where being 'selfish' is considered almost a sin, while giving time, money or anything else to others is considered a good thing to do.

Whereas being there for others is definitely a good thing to do, you cannot truly be there for anybody who needs it if you are not first there for yourself. "Charity starts at home", they say. True.

For instance, how could you offer true comfort to anybody in emotional pain if you don't know how to deal with your own?

This is about you

Thinking about oneself will help you to know yourself, your needs and wants, your strengths and weaknesses.

When you know what you have, you know what you can offer. Only when you have gone through certain issues yourself can you advise somebody else effectively, should they want advice.

Moreover...

Thinking about oneself is also important to choose your way of life. Questions like "What do I want?", "What do I see myself doing in the future?", "What makes me happy?", arise when you dedicate time to think about yourself.

This type of questions lead you to self-knowledge and change, for there cannot be any real change or progress if there is not a certain amount of self-knowledge and desire to 'build' oneself.

Your gains

One of the benefits of thinking about oneself positively consists in achieving personal goals. If you have not set some goals for yourself, let Susan Minarik's "Winning the tomorrow game" help you to discover them and find the way to pursue them.

When you think about what you want and you focus on it in a positive way, persistently and with an eye open for opportunities, small "coincidences" start to happen that take you closer to your goal.

In the same line, to really realize yourself and pursue your wants you need to be clear about who you are and what you want, because there will be people along the way that will interfere with your goals, and you will need to set your priorities clear in order to achieve what you want.

Priorities

Don't mistake me here, people are also a priority.

For someone whose goal is to have a good family life, their family members are important and so is spending time with them and interacting with them. That is a priority for many people.

However, if your priority was to create an internet business to allow you to work for yourself, then spending time outdoors partying every day would not help you achieve your goal.

You get the drift.

I encourage you to take some time daily to think about yourself: where you are in life, where you want to be, what makes you happy, the people you want to have around you.

Not only will you be more clear about who you and your goals are, but also it is in your getting bigger and better that you can give a hand to those who are following the same path.

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