Trading Tension

In this issue...

  • What I've been up to: In the present

  • The monthly thought: As Much Abundance

  • Inspiration from you: "My Little Angel"

  • A positive recommendation: "Choosing Easy World"

  • The thanking corner: drinking water and organic vegetables

    What I've been up to: In The Present

    I have been quite busy in the past month - with bits and pieces that needing doing on the website, with a pull to paint and write, and even being away from home for a couple of days for two weeks in a row, as I was sent to another city by my day job.

    However, among all the activity, I find that my preferred mode of living is on a moment-to-moment basis - this is, letting go of thought as much as possible and giving my full attention to whatever it is I'm doing at any moment.

    When I started practicing living in the present a few years ago, doubts kept coming in - "So am I going to stop getting things done?", "How can I then plan for the future?", and so on.

    I quickly noticed, however, that living in the present gives you a certain kind of alertness and awareness that shows you what you need to give attention to, in just the right time. No stress! :-)

    As 2011 comes to a close, I realize I still have goals - things and experiences that I want to achieve - but making the best of this current moment is my top priority. As I have observed as well, the future seems to smooth out by itself when I just care about loving the present moment.

    Whether you celebrate these coming holidays or not, whatever your religion if any, wherever you are in the planet - I wish that you have a beautiful time and that you choose to live in the present as much as possible throughout all of 2012.

    With love,


    The Monthly Thought: As Much Abundance

    I've been playing lately with an idea that is having great impact in my life. Let's say it's still in its Beta phase - but I'm wanting to share with you what I've experienced so far.

    The idea is... that we enjoy as much abundance as we allow ourselves to enjoy.

    See, for me this idea is revolutionary because it bypasses completely the "I must work hard to have x" - it's not a matter of "working for something" but rather of "allowing something to be".

    If the base of our universe is abundance (and I accept this), then it only follows that all the abundance must be there already - at least in potentiality. Thus, if we want to experience abundance, it's just a matter of allowing ourselves to feel it and experience it.

    In some regards this is easy to do. For instance, if you wanted to experience an abundance of love you can do so by yourself. Yes, feeling loved by somebody else feels great, but the good feeling of love it's generated inside you, whether you're feeling that you're receiving love or you're projecting it on to someone or something.

    So you can take your time to think about things that you like and that make you feel good, and little by little you'd be feeling the love inside you rising - to the point that you can feel extreme love for everything, including for existing, just sitting on your chair.

    In other regards allowing abundance is more complicated, because we have a certain set of ingrained strong beliefs that put a stop to abundance. The most typical issue is money: you may have beliefs like "You must work hard for your money", "Money doesn't come easy", "I don't deserve it", "Rich people are immoral".

    Let's bring it all together. If the base of the universe is abundance and it's just a matter of allowing myself to experience it, than I'm going to make a conscious decision to allow abundance in as it comes to me - to observe and ditch the "but" thoughts that arise, and to say Yes to the abundance.

    How can you do this? Be observant of your experiences and thoughts. For instance, somebody lets you in front in a queue - do you refuse it and insist that the other person goes first? Accept instead graciously that you're being let in front - maybe smile, say thank you, move forward, appreciate it.

    It's interesting that since the idea that "we only enjoy as much abundance as we allow ourselves to have" arose, and since I've been consciously allowing myself more abundance, my reality has then become more and more a string of abundant moments.

    Besides, observing where you allow yourself or not to accept abundance takes you on a journey of knowing yourself. You might be surprised by a thought arising which says "I don't deserve it", and then you may question where this belief comes from - who establishes what you deserve or not? Did your parents, your schooling or your religion made you believe that what you deserve is decided by somebody else? Can you let go of that belief? How would you feel without that belief? What would happen? And so on.

    As an experiment, allow yourself to accept abundance little by little, as it comes to you. Observe how easy it becomes to spot the thoughts that stop abundance and to let go of them. Observe how much richer your life becomes, in all aspects.

    May you have an abundant 2012! :-)

    Inspiration From You: My Little Angel

    Every month I receive emails from readers - some of them contain questions or comments, and some of them are contributions, such as a positive story, an article or a tip.

    This month Renu Changia Garg, from India, shared this piece of gratitude:

    "My Little Angel"

    The story to be told in few words is tough to relate. But still I'll try.

    My marriage is 14 years old. I had a great married life, great husband and a good family. God blessed me with a prince. Life went on very smoothly then... when my son was 8yrs old... we were blessed with twins again... one girl and one boy.

    My happiness was out of bounds in spite of my health problems. But all the smooth waters of our lives rippled when a harsh stone was thrown by our destiny. We couldn't believe that God would gift our daughter (amongst twins) with a life threatening problem. My 5 year old princess is still fighting with "Cerebral Palsy".

    Suddenly our life became still... a pause came... which had no hopes of replay... but then God shaked me and gave me a wake-up call.

    Then I realised and accepted my destiny. Though my mobility is restricted... as I can't leave my daughter alone. But then I did so many things staying in-house which otherwise I had always been dreaming of. I started painting, writing & teaching at home. Now all this gives me a sense of satisfaction & accomplishment.

    I have made good use of my capabilities & my boundation is no more an obstacle. Rather this situation is supportive enough for me. My elder son and younger son (amongst the twins) & my husband are supportive enough for all the situations in my life.

    Now my daughter is no more a liability... she's our goodluck charm and a source of immense happiness. Besides I've 2 healthy sons. So life is a ray of hope, faith & and endless journey.

    So I live each moment in my present.

    Thanks, Renu! :-)

    The Positive Recommendation: "Choosing Easy World"

    Talking about allowing ourselves to enjoy abundance, "Choosing Easy World" is the perfect path to it. As I read this book, something clicked - "Aha" :-)

    Seriously, if you're considering giving yourself a gift this season, make it this book. What will happen as you read it is that you will learn to relax more and more in your life - and you will start seeing miracles happen.

    Julia explains perfectly how to live in Easy World - where everything is easy. When I first heard of this book I thought it was a bit far off - but as I read it, it made more sense to me than I knew.

    Follow this link to read a review of "Choosing Easy World". This is the perfect book to start 2012 with the most positive frame of mind. Check it out!

    The Thanking Corner

    I believe that being grateful for something is one of the most powerful tools to feel better immediately. Here are the two thanking bits of the month:

    Thankful for... drinking water. You know how good it feels to drink good, clean water - all the more when you're thirsty... love it! Besides, I've lately started to bless the water before I drink it - inspired by the beautiful composition of molecules that forms when it's blessed (check this video about it from the movie "What the bleep do we know").

    Thankful for... organic vegetables. I love organic vegetables - I find them much tastier than the non-organic ones. I'm lucky to live in a place where you can easily get organic produce; I love making the most of the organic vegetables I find by using them in simple yet tasty dishes :-)

    What are you thankful for? Share your gratitude on this page and read what others are thankful for!

    Thank you for reading this issue of Dare To Play It Big, the free positive thinking newsletter of The Benefits Of Positive Thinking.

    Care to send me your thoughts about this issue's topics? Email me and let me know!

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    Stay well,


    "Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into."

    -Wayne Dyer

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