Good Enough For You
In this issue...
What I've been up to: Arting around - a positive activity
Positive news: CORAL
The monthly thought: Good Enough For You
A positive recommendation: Big mud puddles and sunny yellow dandelions
The thanking corner: good health and time off
What I've been up to: Arting around - a positive activity
My latest activities have gotten me going to bed at the early hours of the morning, utterly fascinated by the possibilities of watercolours...
Time flies when I'm drawing, and as soon as I say to myself "Right, it's time for bed", I find some other detail I could add or a shade I could refine. As a result, I made several colorful abstract pieces (see the picture - not bad for having just started with watercolours!).
More important, I have found one more activity that fills my heart and makes me feel really good; I think I will regard "drawing with watercolours" a very cool positive activity :-)
The Positive News: CORAL
Browsing the net I came across a piece of news about an organization dedicated to protect the planet's coral reefs - CORAL. While the news was interesting, I was struck by the colorful web site and the interesting information that you can find in it, such as what it is that this organization does precisely and how they go about it.
Thus on this issue I'm not sending you to a piece of news, but rather to the CORAL web site - and wishing you to enjoy the pictures of lively corals. Simply follow the link for the Coral Reef Alliance web site.
The Monthly Thought: Good Enough For You
Only recently did I stop to observe the large amount of stress we put ourselves under when we behave or do things in a certain way in order to be good enough for others. I am not talking about big important things, but about small actions that we do daily. I remember how at school I studied to achieve good marks in the tests so that I was good enough for my father. I have a friend who used to leave whatever he was busy with whenever anybody needed him, in order to be available and be good enough for others.
Why do we do that? Why do we modify our beings, if only slightly, to suit somebody else before suiting ourselves? Well, we all want to feel accepted and loved, and we have an underlying fear of being alone and in despair. To avoid that, we tend to behave in a certain way to conform to what others (parents, partner, friends...) want, or rather, what we think they want from us.
So how not to have all the stress that comes with trying to be good enough for others? The solution is simple: we can choose to behave in a way that is good enough for ourselves. Two interesting things happen when you choose to be good enough for you:
You naturally and effortlessly raise your standards on how you choose to live your life, from how you relate to people to how you brush your teeth. At the end of the day, you are the one to go to bed with how you have lived your day. Little by little, you choose to act in ways that are more satisfying to you.
You start taking full responsibility for your own life. There's nobody else to blame anymore; you are the one to choose your standards and to behave accordingly. While this may sound scary, it is actually very liberating and empowering.
It only takes a small mental shift to see where in your own life you're living to satisfy somebody else's standards and where you're choosing to live in a way that is good enough for you. When you choose the latter more and more often, you find yourself enjoying life more, being more satisfied with yourself and the way go about your own life.
As an experiment, choose any day to observe where in your actions or your being you are geared towards being good enough for others, and how you could start choosing to be good enough for you. Your whole life awaits you!
The Positive Recommendation: Big mud puddles and sunny yellow dandelions
Not too long ago I was sent a link to a page that made me smile: big mud puddles and sunny yellow dandelions. This brief page with animated cartoons and music makes you recover part of the child you really are.
Reading it brought a breeze of fresh air - how come we've arrived to taking life so seriously?! Pass by the big mud puddles and sunny yellow dandelions today and re-discover yourself.
The Thanking Corner
I believe that being grateful for something is one of the most powerful tools to feel better immediately. Here are the two thanking bits of the month:
Thankful for... the good health. A few days ago I had to take a work colleague to A&E as he was very unwell. Having spent a few hours with him at the hospital, I got reminded once again of the importance of having good health as the first step to creating a full life.
Let's take the time to be thankful for our good health today, which allows us to experience fully what goes on in the rest of our lives.
Thankful for... the time off. As I write these lines, I am awaiting in anticipation a music festival to which I'm going in July: four days camping and dancing in the company of my partner and whoever else we meet at the event.
This is the first time I attend a large festival outdoors and I'm looking forward to spending a few days of vacation, dancing under the (hopefully) British sun...
What are you thankful for? Send me an email trough the Contact Me form and let me know!
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