A Process Of Undoing

In this issue...

  • What I've been up to: A spiritual haircut

  • The monthly thought: A Process Of Undoing

  • Inspiration from you: "Thankful for having Love"

  • A positive recommendation: "Does time exist?"

  • The thanking corner: charity shops and pockets of time

    What I've been up to: A spiritual haircut

    It seems to me lately that the more complicated and full of information life becomes, the more most of us jump on the boat of simplifying and letting go of things, whether by our own will or forced - when we acknowledge that we cannot deal with it all.

    And in this process of simplifying I find myself lately, letting go of as many things, thoughts and holding on to's as possible (this, I find, has a lot to do with the process of undoing oneself - see the thought of the month, below).

    Quite timely, I had the experience last week of having a spiritual haircut - this is a healing session while having a haircut done. I went to the session with my mind open, and it proved to be a very interesting experience.

    The haircut was very nice and I was very pleased with it (see the pic). But most importantly, I got a few insights about my current situation in life. I am ready to keep on expanding - it feels to me I'm in between an 'old life' and a 'new life' - and I want to see what happens when I act with the knowledge of the new information I have.

    I will be sharing my discoveries with you next month. Till then, enjoy this newsletter and keep well!

    The Monthly Thought: A Process Of Undoing

    A couple of newsletters ago I shared with you suggestions about letting go of resistance at a physical, mental and spiritual level, so as to enjoy life more. Today I would like to deepen on the mental level of the process of letting go.

    Since I read "Undoing yourself" by Christopher Hyatt the word 'undoing' stuck with me - it just feels so appropriate. As I feel it, it's as if each of us was a beautiful, translucent crystal ball, each of us with our own hues; and all the thoughts and beliefs we go through as we grow up cover the ball with layers.

    So we get to a point that we cannot see the ball anymore - we instead see the layers, the personas, the "I hate people from that background" or "I am better than you" or "I am not good enough".

    Yet here is the thing: as we let go of these layers, little by little, we start remembering that we are in essence a beautiful crystal ball. Each of us is beautiful, each of us is valuable and needed.

    And the remembering gives us some more hope and strength to keep on taking layers away, because actually living life knowing that we are a beautiful crystal ball instead of a made-up persona is, for me, what life is all about.

    So how do you remove the layers that cover the crystal ball up? By noticing how your thoughts and beliefs limit you, little by little - noticing automatically gives way to letting go.

    For instance, you may notice that you tend to dislike the cashier at the supermarket, because he seems grumpy and never smiles, and then you think that you don't know what's going on with that person - maybe they don't want to be doing that job but they see no other option at present, or maybe they are sick, or maybe they received bad news, or what have you.

    When you realize that you don't know what's going on with that person, you start letting go of the thought "I dislike him/her". And as you let go of that thought, you 'undo' your mental conditioning. And so it is with the next limiting thought or belief, and so on.

    See, there are lots of thoughts and beliefs which we grow up with and never question, which make our lives much more difficult than need be. Competition is one - the idea that a person is valuable if they are better than somebody else. Approval is another - the idea that it's not quite sufficient that we approve of what we do or who we are, but that somebody else approves of us.

    As you start noticing how the different thoughts and beliefs shape and limit you, and as you start letting go of them and undo yourself, you discover that you were never really those thoughts and beliefs - they were just a layer. Who you really are is much more beautiful and interesting than any layer.

    All it takes to start undoing yourself is to have the intention to do so. Then, you will start noticing patterns of thought that don't serve you. Let go of them one by one - let the real You shine through ;-)

    Inspiration From You: "Thankful for having Love"

    Every month I receive emails from readers - some of them contain questions or comments, and some of them are contributions, such as a positive story, an article or a tip.

    This month Farah, from Lebanon, shared this sweet piece of gratitude:

    "I am thankful to God for granting me a great and amazing love relationship. It is the best thing that ever happened to me. Love allows you to rise high and to view life as a garden of roses. In spite of all difficulties, we will be able to go on with a smile on our face."

    Thanks, Farah! :-)

    The Positive Recommendation: "Does time exist?"

    My positive recommendation for you this month is a very interesting documentary (42 minutes long) with the title "Does time exist?"

    One of the things that I experience when I choose to focus on thoughts that make me feel good is that, whether I'm imagining something or visualizing a good-feeling future or remembering something nice from the past, my feeling good happens in the present moment.

    This is one of the reasons why the concept of time fascinates me - I don't need to exist in the future to 'be' in the future, if you know what I mean. I get to feel that time is an illusion and that everything is happening now, simultaneously, even though we cannot see it.

    I wish that you enjoy this documentary - I found it fascinating: "Does time exist?"

    The Thanking Corner

    I believe that being grateful for something is one of the most powerful tools to feel better immediately. Here are the two thanking bits of the month:

    Thankful for... charity shops. I have recently discovered charity shops in London - what a chest of treasures! I like that they have very unique clothes and shoes, and I find beautiful gems for my wardrobe - for very little money, to top it up!

    Thankful for... pockets of time :-) As you've probably gathered by reading my newsletters I am a busy bee - I tend to have many different projects going on at the same time, for my web site and for other areas of life. So I love it when I get pockets of unexpected spare time throughout my day, which allow me to get a few more things done - loving the feeling of accomplishing!

    What are you thankful for? Share your gratitude on this page and read what others are thankful for!

    Thank you for reading this issue of Dare To Play It Big, the free positive thinking newsletter of The Benefits Of Positive Thinking.

    Care to send me your thoughts about this issue's topics? Email me and let me know!

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    Stay well,


    "Deep change rarely happens in company. Spend an hour alone and see what's trying to change inside you."

    -Martha Beck

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