The thanking corner: their physical presence and a job well done
What I've been up to: Seville surprise
This issue of Dare To Play It Big finds me in Seville, at my parents' place, where I've come as a birthday surprise for my father, who turned 65 last Sunday.
I had arranged everything with my mom, so that when I arrived at the airport she would just say to my father that a birthday gift had arrived and they had to go out to collect it...
That was a nice surprise for my father, who didn't expect me at all. I have been having a great time with my family, and of course I've also been relaxing around, enjoying the still very hot weather of Seville in September (more than 30 degrees Celsius on average during the day).
I have had the time to read, write, visit relatives and neighbours, and appreciate the wonder of life as I spent a little while with a tiny chicken which was just one week old. Here in the picture, the little chick and I :-)
I've got loads of projects going on at this time of my life, and I'll immerse myself fully into them when I'm back in London. But for the moment, I'll probably just sit around, relax, and enjoy simply being under the Spanish sun...
The Positive News: Little Kids Rock
As a music lover, I was very happy to come across this web site the other day: Little Kids Rock. This is a project which brings music instruments and instruction to kids in public schools in the US - where music lessons have been cut down due to budget constrictions.
I find this project very important, because learning music opens up a certain sensitivity and it is a great connector between people. I checked around the web site, and found that it is possible to even donate musical instruments so that the project can deliver them to the schools which most need it.
Give this web site a listening ear and check it out! It's the Little Kids Rock web site.
The Monthly Thought: Relax!
If I've got it right, life has gotten increasingly more complex over the years for you and pretty much for everybody you know. Yes, that's a fact of life in a certain sense - for instance, you'd expect that your health is not as good when you're 40 as when you were 18.
However, in other aspects I would think that life would get easier as we get older. That is, we have lived more experiences, we have dealt with a lot of unexpected issues and we have developed skills we never thought we really had, such as almost infinite patience, extreme empathy, or care beyond the reasonable.
Yet I find in my own life and in the life of every person I know that things do not get easier, but rather they get more complex, and you're barely done with an issue when life throws a larger one at you.
Lately I have observed a number of people I love getting progressively more stressed as life gets more complex - and this also applies to me at times. We're all better able to deal with what life brings us, yet at the same time we grow more stressed and even get to wonder, "When will I really have a break?"
My message to you this month is simply this...
You have a lot going in your life. You're doing your best. I know that. You're capable, loving, and willing - and sometimes you get frustrated at the amount of challenges you have.
Would you do me a favour? Would you take the message I'm giving you this month, and, even if only for five minutes, just relax?
Really. Just let it all go. Give yourself a break. Give yourself a little island of space and time and relax fully. It feels good, you know.
I've put together some easy ideas so that you don't even have to think of how you go about relaxing. The only condition for these suggestions to work is that you don't try to sort the world with your mind while you do them, but that you simply stay with what you choose to do. Grab the most appealing suggestion, put it into practice, and enjoy...
1. Put your hand on your belly and focus on the "inside" of your body. Just be with it.
2. Look at the sky. Just look.
3. If you're still having some sun around, grab a comfy chair or find a comfy spot and sit in the sun. Feel the warmth of September's sun caressing your skin.
4. Watch an animal - a dog, a cat, a bird or whatever else you can watch will do.
5. Listen. I don't mean listen to a person; wherever you are, just sit back and listen to all the sounds going on. Refrain from labelling what you hear; simply listen with attention.
6. Observe a plant. Again, don't label what you see or try to "get to" anything - simply observe it.
7. Be with your breath. Without making any other effort, just pay attention to your own breath.
If you think that these suggestions are just too simplistic, then you haven't really tried them. I invite you to give them a go and really experience whatever you get to experience with them. I know for a fact you'll come out more relaxed, and perhaps with a handful of insights as well.
Until the next issue of Dare To Play It Big, I wish you experience full relaxation for a few minutes at least every day, and that you grow even calmer at the increasing complexity of life.
The Positive Recommendation:
Conversations between Eckhart Tolle and Oprah
Back in 2008, Eckhart Tolle (spiritual teacher and writer) and Oprah held ten webinars (seminars over the internet) in which they discussed Tolle's book "A new Earth", and shared important insights to live a more conscious life. Many people participated in these conversations with questions and comments.
These conversations were made available for free watching later on. I actually posted the link to them on the blog of The Benefits Of Positive Thinking, but I find them so revealing that I had to tell you again through Dare To Play It Big - so here is the link: "A New Earth" web classes.
It comprises a total of ten sessions of one and a half hours each - so grab pen and paper and your favourite drink, and savour these recordings at your own pace.
Whether you feel you have "woken up" from the illusion of the ego, or you're on your path to enlightenment, I am sure that you will get something of value from these conversations which will help you to live a more conscious and wholesome life.
Check it out! It's "A New Earth" web classes.
The Thanking Corner
I believe that being grateful for something is one of the most powerful tools to feel better immediately. Here are the two thanking bits of the month:
Thankful for... the physical presence of those we love. I have come to appreciate the presence of those we love, and the possibility to hug them, touch them, and kiss them. Physical contact varies from culture to culture, but there is some degree of it in all cultures. All physical forms eventually dissolve - so hug someone you love today, while it is still possible for the two of you to share that contact.
Thankful for... a job well done. Whether it's the dentist cleaning my teeth, or the chef at a restaurant creating a tasty meal, or the cashier at the supermarket placing my shopping in a bag, I very much appreciate a job well done - the kind of job that is done with care, no matter how small it is. Which is precisely what makes it a job well done: the fact that it is done with a great deal of care and love.
What are you thankful for? Send me an email trough the Contact Me form and let me know!
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"If you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today."
-E. Joseph Cossman