Insisting On Joy

In this issue...

  • What I've been up to: Increasing Joy

  • The monthly thought: Insisting On Joy

  • Inspiration from you: "Thanks Today"

  • A positive recommendation: The Power Of Belief

  • The thanking corner: imagination and leggings

    What I've been up to: Increasing Joy

    You may remember that last month I announced a contest to win a copy of Aleks Srbinoski's ebook "Instant Inner Calm". The contest closed yesterday, and I'm happy to announce that we have two winners, who are...

    -Munawara, from UK

    -Maria, from UK

    Congratulations, gals! Wish you enjoy "Instant Inner Calm" :-)

    As I've been letting go of things lately, an old thought imbued with new airs has emerged: that if we just let go and relax we find that things get sorted by themselves, that solutions arise where we only saw problems, and that life keeps on bringing more opportunities to feel joy.

    And in this way I find that it is more relevant than ever to look at life in a way that makes us feel joy - from simply doing things that we enjoy doing to changing our thoughts moment by moment towards the positive.

    As part of my way to increase joy in my life this month I have been walking about the streets of London. I love London and the huge variety of pretty much everything it presents me with... and I love finding hidden treasures in this city!

    I invite you to look at your life and take the decision that you are going to keep on focusing on things that make you feel good. Ask yourself, "How can I experience more joy every day?"

    Till the next time, leaving you in joy! ;-)

    The Monthly Thought: Insisting On Joy

    As you know, what we call reality (this is, what we can perceive through our senses) is in itself neutral. It is ourselves who give it meaning, by choosing to think about it in a specific way.

    There are obviously many ways in which you can think about a particular event, but very broadly we can think about any event in two ways: a way that makes us feel good, or a way that makes us feel bad - whatever the name for the specific feeling.

    And as you know as well, when you think about something in a way that makes you feel good you cannot think about it in a way that makes you feel bad at the same time. Thus, a fantastic way to deal with what you could perceive as stresses of every day life is to consistently focus on things that make you feel joy.

    Funny thing is, you really don't have to go very far to experience joy in your life every day. It comes down to the simple choice, in every moment, of wanting to feel good.

    When you make a decision that you are going to focus on life in a way that makes you feel good the whole universe aligns so that you keep on finding things that give you joy.

    Here is a sample of how I tend to start my days lately...

    -I wake up with the alarm to go to work, and for the first few moments I focus on my breath. I love how as I pay attention to my breath I wake up to my days smoothly and full of optimism.

    -I look through the blinds. I love it if it's sunny, and I love it if it's a grey or rainy autumn day (I love autumn!)

    -I go downstairs and make a coffee. I notice and enjoy the smell of fresh coffee.

    -I open the door to the patio and feel the temperature outside. I take a few deep breaths, enjoying the freshness of the air in the morning.

    -After a shower, I go to my wardrobe thinking or saying to myself "I know exactly what I want to wear today", and I let the ideas for the outfit come to my mind. I enjoy wearing clothes that I like and that make me feel good. I choose a pair of earrings to go with it, and I enjoy feeling the beauty of the earrings.

    -I go downstairs and have some breakfast, which is normally plain or flavoured soya yoghurt with a mix of muesli cereals that I prepare myself. I enjoy the smoothness of the yoghurt and the variety of flavours and textures in the muesli mix - raw cocoa, nuts, raisins, quinoa, fennel, coconut, oats...

    -I pour the coffee on my travel mug, and I appreciate that it serves me well every morning by allowing me to have coffee while I travel.

    -I walk to the train station, paying attention to the sky and the clouds if there are any, and sometimes I catch a good picture of some beautiful clouds or sunrise.

    -I take the train, and I relish in the fact that for the following 30 minutes I get to enjoy reading a book while sipping my coffee. If there are delays on the train then I appreciate that I get to have even more time to read, write, or sort through my agenda (I no longer stress about being late for work, since I realize that there's nothing that I can do about delays on the trains).

    So what you can gather from the above is that I tend to start my days focusing on things that make me feel good, and that I have arranged things around me in a way that contributes to it (I make sure I have soya yoghurt, I prepare the muesli mix beforehand, I bought a travel mug).

    In the same way, you can choose to start and live through your day taking the choice to focus on what you perceive in a way that makes you feel good, and rearrange the things in your life so that they contribute to your joy as well.

    Best thing is, you can make the choice of wanting to feel good at every single moment. You don't have to wait for anything to happen; you can make a choice here and now, every time. The more you keep on choosing joy, the better you feel; the better you feel, the more you find things to feel joyful about, and so on :-)

    See, darkness disappears when there is light. Keep on bringing in light by focusing on life in a way that makes you feel good, and the darkness cannot stay.

    Inspiration From You: "Thanks Today"

    Every month I receive emails from readers - some of them contain questions or comments, and some of them are contributions, such as a positive story, an article or a tip.

    This month Robynn, from Canada, shared this fun gratitude list:

    "Thanks Today"

    People with warm hearts & big smiles

    Team work

    Really good guitarists




    Soda with lime

    Great stories

    My job

    My future

    My past



    Deep relaxing breaths

    My willpower

    My patience

    My duvet




    My herb garden

    My awesome bosses


    Lilacs in May

    Lisa's soups

    The farmers market




    Getting your hair dyed

    When your neck cracks the way you want it to

    Thanks, Robynn! :-)

    The Positive Recommendation: The Power Of Belief

    This month I'm bringing you a short (just over 6 minutes) yet interesting video from Gregg Braden, talking about his latest book "The Spontaneous Healing of Belief".

    In this video Gregg shares a powerful message which is relevant to create the life we want to live: that it is the power of belief itself what rearranges life around us.

    In other words, it's not so much a matter of whether you think that, for instance, healing is a possibility, but that simply believing that you can be healed is what heals you.

    Watch this video - it's short but the message is profound and can, at this point in your life, reignite your hope and faith in positive change.

    The Thanking Corner

    I believe that being grateful for something is one of the most powerful tools to feel better immediately. Here are the two thanking bits of the month:

    Thankful for... imagination. I love how we can use our imagination whenever we want to and how it generates feelings just as if what we imagined was real - and in this way, we can use our imagination to 'see' very positive scenarios that leave us feeling good. Ain't that grand!?

    Thankful for... leggings. It's this time of the year in London - when it's too cold to wear light summer trousers and it's too warm still to wear thick winter trousers. My solution: leggings underneath summer trousers. In this way I'm warm - and still feel summery at the same time ;-)

    What are you thankful for? Share your gratitude on this page and read what others are thankful for!

    Thank you for reading this issue of Dare To Play It Big, the free positive thinking newsletter of The Benefits Of Positive Thinking.

    Care to send me your thoughts about this issue's topics? Email me and let me know!

    If you enjoyed this newsletter, please pass it along to your friends, family and colleagues, or send them to the Dare To Play It Big sign up page. I thank you in advance.

    Stay well,


    "Joy is the feeling of grinning inside."

    -Melba Colgrove

    P.S. Feeling stressed and worried because of problems at work? Then check my handbook "From Conflict To Calm" - based on my own experience with conflict with my boss, my handbook gives you the keys to move from a powerless situation to one of peace. Find out more about how "From Conflict To Calm" can help you!

  • *** NEW ***

    'Yes To Life'

    Yes To Life 'Yes To Life' contains tips and techniques to deal better with the challenges of life and to maintain a state of peace and joy.

    Click here to buy your copy now


    Make sure you get your copy of the newsletter...

    Sign Up For Free Below Right Now!

    Enter your E-mail Address

    Enter your First Name (optional)


    Don't worry -- your e-mail address is totally secure.
    I promise to use it only to send you Dare To Play It Big.


    Holosync Review

    What people are saying about this site:

  • "TBOPT is a treasure-trove of spirit enriching gems! Every visit uplifts me. Thanks so much." - Susan, US

  • "Your site is one of the few that I actually wanted to explore and peruse over - and that's one reason why I joined your newsletter so I could be encouraged to do so on a regular basis. I think your positive energy shines through on this website and it's a pleasure that I can point my site visitors to a site like yours!" - Steve, UK (

  • "...Your website is great, to the point, uplifting, and a real joy." - Max, UK

  • "...You're having an impact on others as well with your great website. I'm impressed by all the information you give..." - Lisa, US

  • "What a wonderful site. I can't explain what a difference it has made me view my life and problems (what problems?). It has such an amazing amount of info and tips that really work. Keep up the good work. This is a site that I will visit as much as possible. God bless." - Brian, UK

  • "Hi Cris, I just started visiting TBOPT but already a fan. Great site, Great effort. You are doing a magnificent job spreading the light of positive thinking to others." - Ruby, Pakistan

  • "With sites like this one, I am doing SO MUCH BETTER than I was 6 months ago. I really appreciate all the time and thought you put into your site. Thank you very much :-)" - Renee, US

  • "Thanks so much for your work on this lovely and meaningful website... [...] I love your positive art venture...what a wonderful way to share the joys of art and its transformative healing properties..." - Supria, Canada (

  • "Really enjoy your site" - Stephanie, US

  • "Your site inspired me and I sincerely believe in your message. Thank you for enlightening me. I will visit again." - Laura

  • "I'm always on the look out for positive & inspirational sites and I'm so glad to have found yours - you're doing a great job, keep it up!" - Nikki, South Africa

  • "I enjoy your writings very much. Keep up the good work." - Dr Norm, Canada (

  • "Thank you for sharing this positive message. I will pass on this site. Thank you." - Terry, US