'I Cannot Meditate'
'I cannot meditate', I said to myself in frustration, getting up from an uncomfortable position that I had been able to hold for... less than five minutes.
It was the countless time that I had tried to meditate, and once again I felt that meditation eluded me.
All this sitting and repeating a mantra and being still sounded amazing, but for as much as I tried I only managed to be distracted, irritated, and with my thoughts all over the place.
'I cannot meditate', was my conclusion.
This was a few years ago, at the time of writing. I knew a few people who meditated, and they said that meditating daily had brought them a feeling of bliss, that helped them to be more at peace throughout their day.
These people seemed to be relaxed most of the time, and they didn't seem to get as emotionally disrupted for silly things as I did. In most cases, when I asked them, they explained that being more in control of themselves was one of the results of meditating.
I also wanted to get that feeling of peace and of being in control of myself. I also wanted to experience what meditation was. And yet, I didn't seem to be able to meditate.
'I cannot keep my focus'
I mean, I had tried all the methods I had found - repeating a mantra, focusing on my breath, listening to all the sounds around me, focusing on nothing (if you've tried to ever 'focus on nothing' you may have realized that it seems pretty much impossible).
No matter which way I went about meditating, just a few seconds into it my mind would be wandering again, thinking about what I was going to make for dinner or remembering the previous evening with friends.
It's no wonder I thought 'I cannot meditate'.
I was soon finding myself not following my breath or the mantra, completely lost in my own thoughts. I tried different mantras as well, but it seemed as if none could really keep my attention.
'I cannot get my mind to be still'
One of my beliefs about meditating was that I should reach a point where there was no thought, where my mind was still as a lake.
However, it is a paradox to try to stop thought, which happens through the mind, using the mind itself. The mind cannot win a fight against itself.
I didn't know that, and at my attempts at meditating I tried hard not to have any thought whatsoever, but thoughts kept coming up. Partly because of this I came to think 'I cannot meditate'.
'I am not comfortable'
One of my main problems with meditating was that I didn't seem to find a comfortable position. If I sat in a yogi-like position (legs crossed in front of me, my spine straight) my back soon started to hurt, and my head didn't ever feel to be in the right spot.
If I sat with my back against a wall, my lower back would also soon start to hurt. Whichever way, it felt like my body wanted to move; no position felt right, and I would become agitated. 'I cannot meditate no matter in which posture I sit', I thought.
Another position I tried was lying. However either I felt my body wanting to move again, or I would fall asleep quickly, thus not meditating at all.
Changing 'I cannot meditate'
Searching the web for a good manual or program that taught me how to meditate once and for all, I first came across Quantum Mind Power, and then later on Holosync.
While Quantum Mind Power was good and I enjoyed benefits from using it, Holosync seemed to go one step beyond.
They offered a free demo, and they had lots of testimonials from people all over the world, telling how Holosync had helped them greatly.
It did sound amazing. Besides, the Holosync web site explained that thanks to the technology Holosync uses, it helps the brain to develop, thus increasing our awareness.
In practical terms this results in being able to control reactions to emotions, have better concentration, and sleep better, among many other benefits.
All in all Holosync did sound like a good way to experience meditation. But I had come to believe my thought 'I cannot meditate', and Holosync sounded too good to be true, so after checking it a little I left it aside for a few months.
When I came across it again I requested a free demo. The demo lasted 20 minutes, and by minute 7 (I checked it) I could already feel something happening inside me, as if a door to a deeper state of awareness had just been opened. The full 20 minutes left me relaxed as I had never experienced before.
'If the demo has such an effect, then how would it be to actually use the full program?', I wondered. I ordered Holosync (read a review of it here). I followed the instructions to the dot, and after a month or so I started looking at certain areas of my life with new eyes.
I kept on using Holosync for about a year or so, and nowadays I use it occasionally. Whenever I listen to the meditation tracks, I experience a deep state of relaxation and awareness, where I am not disturbed by anything that my mind may cook up. If you ever thought 'I cannot meditate', then I'd say to you 'You gotta try Holosync'.
Other benefits that I have experienced using Holosync include taking a new approach to romantic relationships, stopping knee-jerk reactions to emotions, or creating more and more the life I want to experience.
This is why I have written this review of Holosync for you and a comprehensive page about it - so that you can check whether Holosync may be also helpful to you - not only to meditate, but even more to help you move to the next stage of your life.
You can request a free Holosync demo here.
'How can Holosync help me with meditating?'
Interestingly, the problems I found with meditating are the problems most people who say 'I cannot meditate' report, too. Here's how Holosync helped me with each of these problems:
- Inability to focus
The good thing with Holosync is that I could still repeat a mantra or follow my breath if I wanted, but I didn't have to. My thoughts would still wander, but somehow I would not get so caught up by them, and I would return to the meditation music again and again.
Eventually I seemed to find a state of awareness of my body and my thoughts - what I can only describe as a kind of 'detached' point of view.
There is then no need to 'try to focus', as the focus is already there, within the awareness. This concept seems difficult to explain, yet you know it perfectly well when you experience it.
- Inability to get the mind to be still
My experience using Holosync showed me that meditation does lead to a stage of pure awareness, without thought, but this does not happen by our forcing our way into it. Telling the mind to have no thought led me to believe 'I cannot meditate'.
The very first step towards the stillness of the mind in meditation consists of simply observing the thoughts we are having without getting emotionally attached to and carried away by them.
It is just as if you watched cars passing by, without having to run after each of them. Holosync allows for such a state of relaxation that it makes it easy to just observe the thoughts without identifying with them.
- Inability to be comfortable
Every time I listened to the Holosync meditation tracks I found myself very relaxed very quickly - normally before ten minutes into the track.
Because of this, not only would my body relax to the point of having no pain or discomfort, but I actually wanted to keep still because it somehow contributed to the increased awareness.
In this regard, Holosync allowed me to experience meditating for long times, as I was no longer feeling pain or discomfort.
Holosync is a meditation program, but like I said before, it does much more than helping you with 'I cannot meditate'. Follow this link to read more about how Holosync can help you to change your experience of life.
Follow this link to request your free Holosync demo.
"You may be cool under pressure and challenge, but can you be cool under success?"
Robert Holden